Today is 5 years since I lost my daddy. The picture above is my dad holding my son.
Thank you to my beautiful friend Phyllis for remembering and sending her well wishes for my mom and me. She knows my pain well, having lost her own dad more recently.
Another close friend of mine lost her father last week.
It breaks my heart to see others go through that loss. The only thing I can tell them is that I don't think the pain ever goes away, but I know that it does get easier with time.... and the memories won't ever leave either.
There are STILL times when I can feel his presence, when I hear something he used to say, see something in his favorite color, or sometimes I can smell him... I could be driving or just sitting at home and all of a sudden, I'll just smell him... THAT'S when I feel him most.... and I close my eyes and talk to him, just tell him how much I miss him and what's been going on in our lives (as if he didn't know). It's just a comfort for me.
He used to like to feed the pigeons, and they would sit on the wire across the street from his house and wait for him to come out in the morning with bird seed and bread. Whenever I see a bird on a wire sitting outside my window, I think of my dad.
There will always be things to remind me of him, so he'll never be far away.... Thank God!!
I miss you so much, Daddy, I love you!!!
(((((Joann)))) the nice thing is you will spend eternity with him, but I know you miss him so very much
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THINKING OF YOU ON THIS SPECIAL DAY.I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL..WE JUST HAD THE 7TH ANNIVERSARY OF MY MUM'S PASSING..
ReplyDelete(( Joann )) What a sweet picture! It sounds like you were very blessed!
ReplyDelete((((Joann)))) I understand your loss. I lost my mother over 10 years ago. I miss her so much. She and I were best friends!
ReplyDeleteThe wonderful memories of your father will sustain you throughout the good and bad times in your life. Cherish them always.
ReplyDeleteJoan, Thank you for that, I agree that the pain never leaves us but that it does ease a bit and only occasionaly do we find ourseleves overcome.It is a very long time since my dear Dad died in 1970, but there are days when it just seems like last week.
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Love Sybil
so sorry for your loss my friend.
ReplyDeleteHUGZ!
I don't think you ever get over the feeling of loss. But he lives on in your memories of him and by the person you have become and continue to be.
ReplyDeleteIt can still be raw at five years, but it does get better with time. I lost my dad almost 20 years ago. I recently got some pictures from a cousin, and my tears flowed because it was my dad and me in them :o(
ReplyDeleteMy sweet friend, thank you for all your comforting words. IT has just been over a year and, I am still struggling with missing my sweet Daddy. Having a friend like you helps me so much, Joann. You encourage me daily to remember that he is always with me. I am so glad I met you all those many years ago, Happy2BMe! :) IT is strange how I always knew you were such a positive person. Even through the computer. :) I think about your loss when I think about mine. Love you, Joann. {{HUGS}}
ReplyDeleteJoann, your Daddy was so cute. :)
ReplyDeleteLosing a dear parent can be devastating but he will always be in your memory ~ no one can take them away from you ~ and memories are always a great comfort ~ Ally x
ReplyDelete((Joann)) Having lost my dad in 2002, I know what you are saying. I can still feel him around me too. Have a good week my friend! :)
ReplyDeleteParents never really leave us, they're always a part of our lives. Cherish the memories.
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P.S. I've got some new recordings if you'd like them. Old Timer's disease prevents my recollection of what I've sent you.
I understand Joanne,
ReplyDeleteIt'll be five years that I lost my dad next month. It's still tough because I really do miss him. But I don't wish him back because why would I want to yank him back from paradise? That would be so selfish of me. So while I miss him a ton, I am glad that he's with the love of his life, my mom, up in heaven. I'll see him again someday, Good Lord willing ;)
{{{Joann}}} It has been 8 years since I lost my dad. You are right, it does get easier with time, but you never stop missing them. Sometimes when I hear my brother speak it sounds so much like my father, that it surprises me for a minute. You take care!
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